Managing stress begins with recognizing the signs that you are responding to a stressor. How? Listen to your body!When you feel your heart beginning to race, you feel flushed, you begin to sweat, and you start feeling edgy and angry, you are likely having a stress response.
What can you do? You will agree that the contexts in which we often experience stress do not lend themselves well to engaging in the stress management techniques that work for us. Starting to meditate or getting into the lotus position in the middle of a stressful meeting with your boss may be inappropriate!
Here are a couple of simple tricks that you can use to diminish your stress response very quiclky.
This is not a mammoth!
When the stress system detects a threat (a mammoth), almost 100% of the brain’s attention is shifted to this threat. When you are running like mad, the brain will not detect or process other less threatening information like the beautiful trees along the way.
e.g: If you are unprepared for a question your boss asks in a meeting, you will not be focusing on the rain that has just begun outside. You will focus all your attention and efforts on your boss and coming up with the answer.
The trick is to get your brain to understand that the situation you are in is not so threatening. So, process the information or think about something positive, this new message will dampen your stress response. If you are faced with a stressful situation, then momentarily bring to mind an image, a moment, an event, or anything you find pleasant and soothing.
Use your mobilized energy
Recall that the primary goal of the stress response is to mobilize energy for the fight or flight that is about to ensue. Clearly, you are not going to fight your boss, nor will you pack up and run home! But your brain thinks you will, so let’s fool it again. Take a few minutes to use up the energy that was mobilized. You don’t need to go run a marathon. Walking up and down a few flights of stairs will do the trick. Go get your lunch down the street at a fast pace instead of going to the cafeteria.
If you are not in a location that will allow you to blow off the accumulated steam (e.g. stuck in traffic), then, breath in deeply several times, contract and release your abdominal muscles, or flex your arm and leg muscles. Your brain expects such things to occur in a fight or a flight.
The 10 minutes you will use to move and breathe will not take up valuable time in your day because doing so will help to prevent the decreased productivity that often accompanies being tense, stressed, and worried. In fact, it may help you get right back on track.
|You get a call from the boss’ secretary letting you know that you are to be in his/her office in 10 minutes. You can literally hear you heart beating! Bring to mind the look on your child’s face when she saw her first birthday cake. Find whatever image suits you best. Your initial interpretation of this situation (the boss calling you in his office) told the brain: “hey this is stressful, send stress hormones!” But, by bringing to mind something positive (your child’s face at her first birthday), you can modify the meaning of the situation and decrease your body’s response to it.|